Did you know that among many "primitive" peoples such as the Bushmen, children rarely cry and are never punished? They are constantly carried by the mother as a baby or child and can suckle whenever the child asks for it. Do they hold the key to the happiness of a natural and beautiful society?
When we look at man and woman purely biologically, the differences are evident. In a natural situation it could go like this: A man and a woman get to know each other; their desire to give themselves unconditionally to the other - that is, their love - grows. This love continues to grow to the point where it concretely results in conception: a child begins to grow as a miraculous result of this love community. This is the result when a man and a woman love each other from their differences. The man can be regarded as the protagonist. He gives himself to the woman and the woman, she receives the man. This exchange creates new life. By this choice (or the risk) to express their love concretely, both partners face the responsibility to take care of this new life - which sees the light of day unsolicited - in the best possible way.
The receiving role of the woman shifts to the main role!
From that moment on, the receiving role shifts from the woman to the lead role. Perhaps the husband protects his wife, but the wife gives her own body to the life she carries within. When the child is born, it is again the woman who does the heavy lifting. Even after birth it is the mother; it is the woman who feeds her child with milk from her own body. But in addition to food, she also provides abundant, unconditional love for this wondrous result of their mutual love. In this way she provides the child with a safe environment. It is the mother who provides everything for the child. It is, undeniably, her most beautiful job: to lead the child into a pure and safe love experience. That is also what the child unconsciously 'expects' at birth, or even from conception: namely, to feel concretely the love that has suddenly fallen to the child and to pass it on later.
So when a couple decides to have a child, it basically entails the responsibility of putting aside almost everything to give this new life what it 'expects'. It is the woman's job to provide the best conditions for her child; to always be there for the child.
The woman was clothed by nature with the privilege of building the intimate bond with her child.
Notice how dignified the woman's job is. The woman was endowed by nature with the privilege of building the intimate bond with her child by experiencing pregnancy in her body; to establish an unbreakable emotional bond with this child through the pain of birth; to be experienced through breastfeeding as the source of abundance for the child; and thus to give the child an indelible starting point in the development of her or his character and individuality. Here we can speak of the paradisiacal bond between mother and child.
Can we still get in here? Or is motherhood viewed as an inferior obligation or a diminished opportunity to advance our personal careers? Indeed, many young mothers choose to see this as a thankless task that they suffer from. But how far have we strayed from our perfect nature? Is it our own career that gives us fulfilment in our lives? And how does the child fit in there? As something or someone to show off in your environment, but actually as a burden in your own development? No, still. Let's revalue it. The remarkable privilege of the mother may once again be beautifully emphasised. Human motherhood is the most beautiful gift of evolution and nature that exists. We miss the point if we reduce this to incidental.
How far have we strayed from our perfect nature?
But a man who processes a child with his beloved partner has also taken on a role. In the first six to seven years of the child's life, the mother will take on the greatest role. During that time, the father provides the necessary framework behind the scenes so that the mother can devote herself to her child. In the next period, fatherly love reappears on the scene.
How necessary is it to give the child sufficient recognition and security so that he can develop into a person who can stand on his own, with his own opinion and with sufficient resilience? This is the part of the loving father who is ready with advice and action to offer the child a view of what is happening in life. There is so much honour and satisfaction to be gained in this manly task. Here, the father - together with the mother - ensures a strong future in the development of a new generation, who can then ensure a better world.
See what wonderful opportunities are presented to us.
How sad if we do not see and do not seize these opportunities to create a world for ourselves, and especially for our children, from that natural unconditional love.
A world where 'giving' means the greatest joy. The joy of realising that our efforts add value to our beautiful planet in full growth towards a new loving society.
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